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Through my workshops and courses you will be able to connect with other people who share similar experiences to you. Working individually and in small groups you will have the opportunity to develop some practical, personal strategies for living life with profound loss and with a strong connection to your son or daughter.
All workshops and courses include a dedicated private space for participants to communicate and share experiences, if they choose to do so.
In the one-day workshop you will have the opportunity to…
Better understand the possible impact of your experience on you mentally, emotionally, physically and maybe spiritually.
Explore how cultural and family norms and expectations can make it difficult for you to have sufficient space for your feelings and reactions.
Identify some of what you need and and practice communicating this to others.
Consider what changes might support you more effectively and make a personal plan to include these in your life.
One-day online workshop for parents who live with the traumatic loss of a son or a daughter.
Date: Sat 13th Feb 2021
Time: 10 am to 3 pm
Max no. in group: 10
Cost: £60
One hour break between 12.00 and 1.00 pm.
YOU WILL CONTINUE TO BE ABLE TO COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR GROUP FOR PEER SUPPORT AND TO USE THE RESOURCES IN THE TOOLBOX AFTER THE CLOSE OF THE WORKSHOP
YOU WILL ALSO RECEIVE ONE MONTH’S FREE ACCESS TO OUR NEW EXCLUSIVE ONLINE COMMUNITY SPACE.
THIS WORKSHOP IS FOR PARENTS WHO HAVE LOST A TEENAGE OR YOUNG ADULT CHILD MAYBE A YEAR, OR LONGER, AGO. IT IS NOT SUITABLE FOR RECENTLY BEREAVED PARENTS.
Is this the right step for you?
You might be wondering if this could be the right next step for you. I expect that the people who will benefit from my work will be at very different starting points in terms of the time scale of their loss and their personal circumstances. Those who will benefit most will share a willingness to engage with some challenging ideas, and possibly even some unexpected ideas, and to really consider what’s right for them. They may also be people who may have become isolated in their grief and who want to benefit from connecting with other people who share a similar experience.
I don’t know what is right for you, it’s taken me sixteen years to get to understand much of what’s right for me and I still make mistakes! But I do know that the journey we all need to make is to step closer to a way of living where more of what we do and more of who we spend time with are right for us.
Is this the right time for you?
My rule-of-thumb is that you should be a year, or longer, into this journey to benefit from my work. This is based on evidence from many bereaved parents that the first year is unimaginably difficult and focusing on anything more than getting through the days and weeks is probably too difficult to do. The second year can be as difficult as the first and, in some ways, even more difficult. If you have been fortunate enough to get the right level of support then you are likely to have resolved some of your trauma responses by now and perhaps having a little more choice about when you get overwhelmed. But none of this is necessarily so.
As I am sure you are aware, suffering a profound loss does not make you immune to other challenges in life, some of them huge. That was something I was pretty indignant about for a long time—that simply isn’t fair. So, another consideration is—what else is going on in your life right now. You need to be able to focus on this workshop and give yourself enough time and self-care around it to be OK with it.
You are the best judge of whether you feel ready to consider and explore learning to live with what has happened. If you are in doubt do not hesitate to get in touch to discuss the possibilities. I will take care to help you to make the right decision for you about joining one of my courses.