How I work with clients

My clients are ordinary people who have had, or are currently having, challenging and sometimes devastating experiences. They want to feel better in and about themselves and happier in their relationships.

It can feel as if the world or the people in it, or even the past, needs to change in order for us to be OK. As we work together, they begin to realise that this is not the case—that we can be OK without other people changing and without the world shifting on its axis. We can sort it out together, from the inside.

Clients can expect gentle, direct, clear communication from me. I listen with great care. I say what I see, what I notice about their ways of being in the world. I support them to understand how they, from their earliest experience, have already created brilliant strategies for life that they use every day to be as OK as possible, and that they can develop new strategies now.

I don't stay silent, nodding caringly and not saying anything. However, I don't tell you what to do—I don't know what you should do. I work with you as myself and I use ordinary language to share my thoughts and responses to you. My clients have described me as warm, kind and patient, as capable and inexhaustible. People have said they feel safe with me, that when I am in the room, no matter what is happening, all will be well. I have the capacity to be with others' deep suffering and pain. I won't shy away from it.

I am direct with people, real—I don't hide behind a façade. The intention to be kind is key to the way I am. I don't try to change my clients. I allow them to be who they are, help them to understand and accept their quirks and differences, to begin to accept and express their own needs, and to develop new, more resilient and joyful ways of living. They begin to trust that it's all right to be the person they are, to have the preferences that they have, and to take up the exact space in the world that they do. They can begin to do their lives differently.

About my approach to therapy:

I offer one-to-one online psychotherapy sessions using video calls or by email (further information about email therapy here).

I am experienced in working with clients experiencing grief, trauma, difficult life experiences or relational difficulties. My approach is trauma-informed and neurodiversity-affirming.

My work is grounded in Core Process Psychotherapy, which emphasises deep listening, compassionate presence, and trusting your own inner wisdom about what you need to heal and to find your way forward.