Hi, I’m Davina
I know the value of getting the right kind of support when you need it most. I have tussled with tangled relationships, struggled to decide whether to stay or leave, and made a number of scary moves into the unknown.
As a young woman I supported myself working as a mathematics teacher and head of year whilst bringing up my children as a single parent. I was both sorely tested and overjoyed by parenting. I lost things, some of them very precious to me. In 2004, my son Sam took his own life—an experience that profoundly shaped my understanding of grief, trauma, and how to live life well. At times, simply putting one foot in front of the other was overwhelming and lonely, and I needed some help.
What I learned from my own therapy
I gained much from my own therapy. I felt so relieved just to be listened to and to feel that someone else really seemed to 'get' how things were for me. Just as importantly, I learned to understand myself better. I started to be able to accept myself as the particular and imperfect person that I am. I learned how to live peacefully with my past.
One of the most important learnings for me was that the strategies I was using to meet my own needs—such as the need for affection or for support—were not working well for me. I have learned to be more aware of what my needs are and to take responsibility for them rather than wishing and hoping that someone else would do that for me. I am more resilient, more able to meet my own needs, and more willing to do things my way.
My background and qualifications
I was a teacher and leader in education until 2006, working as a mathematics teacher and head of year. I qualified as a counsellor and gained a degree in psychology during my first career as an educator. After leaving teaching, I worked as a freelance teacher trainer doing workshops on topics related to special educational needs, classroom behaviour, and mental health problems.
I completed my training as a psychotherapist in 2012. Since then, I have worked with individuals in private practice and for NHS services as a psychotherapist. I have experience facilitating groups of students on counselling certificate courses and can offer support to those who are engaged with the process of training in counselling.
I read everything I can lay my hands on and I love to learn. I have been engaged with a wide range of disciplines, including computer programming (a long time ago—when programmes were fed in on punch cards) and sex education. I have made mistakes along the way, had many challenges in my life, and many, many moments of joy.
Neurodivergence and my memoir
I'm in the final stages of writing a memoir about how our education system failed Sam, my gifted and neurodivergent son. It examines the damage when institutions cannot meet the needs of children whose minds work differently. Sam's story reveals missed opportunities—by me, by teachers, by the educational and mental health systems—to show him there was nothing wrong with him. It's about the need to transform how we understand education and truly meeting every child's needs.
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