Develop some strategies for being present to the thoughts and feelings that you experience without getting overwhelmed.

• Work out how to include your daughter or your son in family occasions and gatherings in ways that are OK for you.

• Reflect on your current relationship with your child and how to stay connected with them.

• Communicate with your partner, family and friends about your needs (and theirs too) around your son or daughter.

• Be confident that you are not taking up too much space when you want to talk about your child or your experience.

• Feel less isolated from the other people around you and be able to put down the mask you wear to go out in the world.