There are sometimes significant changes needed in our lives to be able to live well with the loss of a child. For example, the way that we earn a living might not feel possible any more. Where we live, how we socialise, who we socialise with, all kinds of areas of our lives might need us, or even require us, to make changes if we are to be OK.

When my boy died I travelled up to be with him and I was hundreds of miles away from home. I had to find someone to bring him home for me. My first idea was to phone someone in the small Dartmoor town where he went to school. I had no idea at that point that undertakers were so variable.

For most people this is the simplest question in the world. For a bereaved parent it is one of the trickiest. It's also one of the reasons why life can be so exhausting for bereaved parents.