So here's something that bothers me. My father's grandson died sixteen years ago and I don't know if he feels anything at all about that - I have never heard him express anything about how he feels about my son or about what he remembers about him.

The activities we participate in whether talking, creating, planning or learning will all be inspired by our shared purpose and each will focus on making progress with one or more of the six aims. So the gatherings where these activities take place within the community whether in chat areas, posting forums, Zoom meetings or (later) in person meetings will all be about community in action learning to live better with the profound and traumatic loss of a precious son or daughter through our connection with each other.

Grief is feeling our feelings and sometimes involves communicating these to others. In fact it can be hugely helpful if someone else can hear and understand how we feel at any stage of our loss. However, the enormous and deep grief of a bereaved parent can be disturbing to other people. This leads to them trying to stop us from grieving so that they can feel better although, even as they do this, they may believe that they are actually trying to help us to feel better.